1. Not Doing Your Share
This is the number ONE complaint from women and yet men still can't figure out why their wives and girlfriends don't want to have sex with them. When you leave your partner to wash all of the dirty dishes, laundry or vacuuming because you assume it's their job you have no idea what toll this takes on a relationship. Coming home after a long day of work and having to do more work when you're sitting around waiting for her to make dinner is definitely a libido killer says Melissa Jones, executive director of the Sexology Institute.
2. Body Criticism
This is apparently not as understood as we thought. Men don't like their penises criticized just like women don't like their entire bodies criticized. Even something as little as how she spends too much time in sweat pants, could strike a nerve and leave her too self-conscious or angry to want sex.
Being well-rested is a huge key to keeping up your libido. Women whose partners snore all night or keep them up by rolling around in bed all night long will lead to a lack of sleep for your partner which can also lower her sexual libido. This can be a two-way street of course. Point being that anyone who wants a friskier partner should work on letting their significant other sleep at night.
4. Ignoring Stress
If a man knows that his partner is stressed, he can try and help out and be proactive. Pitch in and help with chores or the kids or even by offering a massage. Massages can cause a release of oxytocin (a bonding hormone) in both the giver and the receiver.
5. Being Selfish
Look, if you haven't learned about women by now yet this probably applies to you. Women experience sex a lot differently than men and it takes them a lot longer to get aroused. If they are not aroused it can be uncomfortable and unsatisfying. So if you are not making sure your lady is taken care of by having plenty of foreplay to get her in the mood she will be less and less likely to want to have sex with you.
More things that kill the mood at Men'sJournal.com