Seven Common Sex Dreams and What They Mean

sex dreams and what they mean

Ever wake up in the morning and surprise yourself with the person you just had sex with in your dreams?

"Just because you are asleep it doesn't mean that your libido is taking a rest," says Susan Block, Ph.D. a sexologist in Los Angeles at the Institute for Erotic Arts and Sciences.

If you are having a sex dream about someone other than your spouse or significant other doesn't mean that you want to cheat but instead could symbolize problems, desires and hopes in all aspects of your life.

Here are 7 of the mosts common types of sex dreams and what you can learn from them:

1. Sex with an acquaintance

Again, it doesn't mean you want to cheat with this person, and it could actually mean that you admire this person and wish you possessed some of their qualities, suggests Lauri Loewenberg, author of Dream on it: Unlock Your Dreams, Change Your Life. 

"Sex is the ultimate act of union between two individuals" claims the author, "so when you're having sex with someone in your dreams, it may mean that you want what they have."

2. Getting it on with your boss

According to the same author, it means that you want to get closer to your boss - but not necessarily  in the supply closet.  Because sex is so intimate, it could mean that you are feeling distant from your boss's management style, and you may need to figure out a way to get closer.

3. Trying to find a private space with your partner

If you are having dreams about finding a place to have sex with your partner it could represent a lack of connection between you and your partner in day-to-day life.

If you are too busy for sex most of the time maybe it means you need to clear your schedule up a bit to find time for your partner.

4. Having sex in public

Having sex in public could actually mean that you are afraid of being exposed.  Perhaps you feel that your friends and family will judge your life and love decisions so you feel the need to hide certain aspects of yourself or your relationship.

5. Flying

Flying makes you feel free, unencumbered and totally giving into physical sensations.  Like an orgasm!

"Flying in your dream is closely related to orgasm," says Block.  Flying in your dreams could mean that you are frustrated about your current sex life status.  Perhaps you would like to achieve more orgasms more often, or it could mean that your mind is simply playing its subconscious  highlight reel.

6. Hooking up with a celebrity

Having sex with a celebrity may not necessarily indicate that you want that celebrity.  Instead it could mean that you are seeking the spotlight in your own life.

7. Dreaming about an ex

If your ex happens to pop up in your dreams, it could be your brain just sifting through its mental hard drive.

If this is a common occurrence, it could mean that you are still into this person or there are issues within your current relationship that need to be addressed.