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We've all had that moment of admiration for that adorable couple that has been together their entire lives almost and they are still in love with each other just as much now as they were in the beginning. What is their secret and how can you manage to strengthen your relationship for the future.

Psychiatrist Mark Goulston has 10 tips for lasting relationships:

1. Going To Be Together
This doesn't meant that you have to have sex every night, just that you should go to bed at the same time.  Goulston claims that there is nothing like a bedtime cuddle to strengthen your love.

2. Work out your common interests
Look, you don't have to do everything together but you should have some common interests because the initial passion isn't going to last forever and you'll need some substance behind that relationship. 

If you don't have any interests in common, happy couples develop them.  Pay attention to the things that you both enjoy doing together but make sure you continue to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting and prevent you from looking and being to dependent.

3. Hold hands
When you go out, make sure you're in sync with each other by holding hands in public.  Public displays of affection is a sign of comfort in your relationship plus "It's more important to be with your partner than to see the sights along the way," Goulston says.

4. Always Trust and Forgive
This is obviously going to depend on the severity of your disagreement, but in general, it's key to trust and forgive your partner rather than distrusting and begrudging.

5. Focus on what they do right, not what they do wrong
Positive reinforcement is something we use with our children all the time but we tend to forget about it when it comes to other adults.  You should make it a good practice to compliment your partner when they deserve it, and quit trying to focus on the things that they do wrong because you will always find something.  This goes both ways.  If you start looking for something your partner does right, then there is always something you can find.  Happy couples tend to accentuate the positive in each other.


Read all 10 habits of lasting relationships here at Cosmopolitan.com